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Tall Decaf, Extra Hot—That’s Me!

If you are a regular customer at Starbucks you will totally understand this lingo:

“I’ll have a tall, skinny, extra hot, decaf caramel macchiato. Hold the whip!”

For those of us who do not like change, we become regulars at our favorite restaurant and our order is consistent. The server asks, “Same thing tonight?”

You answer, “Why not! Why change a good thing?”

In both scenarios, the server does not call you by name. She knows you by your order, “tall decaf latte.”

In our heart of hearts, we all want someone to call us by name, someone who wants to get to know us personally.

In all of my years of mentoring there are a few statements that always surface. “I feel so alone.” “I really need someone to talk to and have community with.” “Would you have time to get together for coffee?”

The cry of every heart is to matter, to be significant, and to be known by someone who cares about us.

Each of us has problems and trials to deal with. Who wouldn’t treasure a friend to provide good counsel, one who would actually listen, someone to connect with?

God’s call to all of us in Titus 2:3-4 in the New Testament, is for the older women to teach and equip the younger women of God. It’s not a suggestion: it’s a command. We are to reach out and mentor for the benefit of His Kingdom. According to Scripture, a mentor is a mature Christian woman who is walking daily with the Lord, willing to listen and able to serve by giving a younger believer Biblical guidance to equip them to do life God’s way. The one-on-one setting will always produce the best experience and the most individual growth in every area of life.

This month at the Chick-Fil-A Leadercast Event Peyton Manning said, “As soon as someone stops learning to be coached, taught or MENTORED they are in big trouble.” I totally agree.

The most encouraging news I want to share with you is that God has a plan and a purpose for your life. God is NEVER LATE. God is always working. He wants to use someone to help lead you in your walk with Christ.  He is also searching to see if someone is willing, ready and available for Him to work through as a mentor for the younger believers.

“I pray that whatever is Your perfect will for me in Heaven will also be accomplished in my life here on earth.” (Matthew 6:10)

I challenge you to start praying for God to speak to your heart and give you the confidence and courage to say, “Yes Lord!” “Yes, Lord!”


Look at the recipe for a good mentor. Look at the women in your life this week and discover who God has placed beside you. Pray. Ask her to coffee and share this mentoring idea with her. God is calling the older and younger women together to begin new mentoring relationships and grow in our Christian faith.


Jayme Hull

Author Jayme Hull

Jayme a Spiritual Direction Coach. Mentor, Author, and Podcast Host is passionate about moving Christian Women forward to God's direction for their life through Scripture and prayer. Join the Spiritual Direction Coaching Today Facebook private page or connect with her on Instagram.

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