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If mentoring is about a relationship, then can you methodically find a mentor?  In a word, yes, but it isn’t going to be a method like you might often think of a method.  It is more of a process.  Let’s walk through the process together, step-by-step. “Mentoring is not a formula or a checklist; it’s a relationship.”

Learn the 4 steps to getting connected to a mentor. Mentoring isn't a formula or a checklist; mentoring is a relationship. #JaymeLeeHull

 

Step One: How to Be Actively Searching for a Mentor

The truth is you desire more personal communication and real relationships. Begin to intentionally look at the women around you at work, church, the gym, or where you volunteer. No one will ever be perfect. What you will notice is how they handle the difficult situations of life and make the choice to move forward in their own life.

Believe me, neither good friends nor a good mentor will just “happen.” So don’t merely sit on your couch drinking a smoothie and praying. Pray, certainly. But then get up and move.  While you are out and about doing life watch for those around you who do life in a way you can admire.

Step Two: How Important is it to Be Authentic With Your Mentor?

Start a conversation with the mentor face to face. Share encouraging words with them and how you admire the way they choose to live life no matter what they are facing. Have a brief conversation about your desire to work on things in your life and grow in that area of your life.
Remember, Mentoring is so much more than just an appointment on your calendar—it’s a way of life.  Therefore, you will want to look for a mentor who you feel you can spend a part of your life with sharing and growing.  You will need to be willing to open up to this person and share who you are, your strengths, and your weaknesses authentically.

“God will give you the right words at the right time.” Matthew 10:19b

You will do this by spending time together.  This will take an effort on your part which you must be ready to blend into the other areas of your life.

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Step Three: Be Available 

Invite this person to meet for coffee. Ask them to share their life stories and consider becoming your mentor.
It is important to meet face-to-face after all God created us for face-to-face relationships long before social media began to take over our lives.  Just because you can build a relationship with a computer or phone screen doesn’t mean you should.  True authentic relationships are best-done face-to-face.

“Alone we can do so little, but together we can do so much.” Helen Keller

Learn the 4 steps to getting connected to a mentor. Mentoring isn't a formula or a checklist; mentoring is a relationship. #JaymeLeeHull

 

Step Four: Are You Approachable With Your Mentor and with God?

If you are inviting someone to share their life stories and pour into your life, you will need to be teachable. The only way to get unstuck and grow is to listen to wise godly counsel and pray with your mentor.

You will want to be willing and open to making changes in your life.  Allow your mentor to help you take the first steps to better relationships, better choices, and greater days. You don’t have to do life alone.

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Start today to seek people who can walk with you in living out your questions day by day.

 

I’d love to hear your God story in the comments below.  Are you searching for a mentor?

I’m here to help you.

 

To God be the Glory!

Blessings,  

Jayme

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Jayme a Spiritual Direction Coach. Mentor, Author, and Podcast Host is passionate about moving Christian Women forward to God's direction for their life through Scripture and prayer. Join the Spiritual Direction Coaching Today Facebook private page or connect with her on Instagram

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