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Have you been thinking about becoming a Christian mentor? I regularly receive questions on Facebook asking for advice and encouragement, on how to become a successful Christian mentor for millennials in a new mentoring relationship.

I love this request.

Mentoring is not a formula or a checklist; it’s a relationship. A Christian mentor is a person further along in their walk with God who continues to grow in their faith and is willing to walk beside another person to guide them in becoming the person God created them to be.

Top 10 Best Helpful Tips for the Christian Mentor

Preceding Your Meeting

1. Keep your own relationship with God fresh and vital.

Live an authentic Christian lifestyle. Hebrews 5:14

2. Spend time in prayer.

Ask God to use you in this mentoring relationship and give you the words He wants you to share. A Christian Mentor will not be successful without a strong commitment to prayer. Ephesians 6:18

3. Ask good open-ended questions.

Here are a few examples to help you get the conversations started. Matthew 7:7-8

I’d like to hear your God story and how you got to where you are today.
What are your expectations for our mentoring relationship right now and in the future?
If you could do some things over again, what would you choose to do differently?
What one important topic would you like to discuss this week?
What are the biggest challenges you are experiencing this week?

Will you answer the call from God to become a Christian mentor to the next generation? The younger generations need godly mentors right now.

4. Be a good listener who’s focused on God and the person you are mentoring.

Your focus should be on God’s point of view and not your own agenda. As a Mentor, you are not to try and fix anyone. The Holy Spirit must be in control. James 1:19

5. Share your God stories and the power of God working in your life.

Be transparent and real and open to discussing any subject matter. Seek and share wisdom based on God’s Word 2 Timothy 3:16-17

6. Be an encourager who supports, nurtures, and celebrates the young person’s uniqueness and potential in Christ. 1 Thessalonians 5:11

At the conclusion of your mentoring meeting

7. After the first meeting I suggest making a 4-week commitment to dig into a short book of the Bible to discuss and apply to your life.

The process of learning to read, discuss, and apply scripture to life will be a game-changer for both of you. Isaiah 55:11

8. Plan to meet for one hour.

Arrive on time. End on time. Finally, set up the next appointment time and place before you leave. I suggest meeting every week for the first 4-6 weeks. After completing the first 6 weeks you can discuss the next plan for weekly or bi-weekly scheduled meetings. 1 Corinthians 14:40

9. Set boundaries on the first meeting for the mentoring relationship. Psalm 16:6

‣ All discussions will be Confidentiality between the two of you. However, you will absolutely refuse to keep any subject matter confidential that is a potential danger or covers up any evil.
‣ All meetings will be 60 minutes and there should be a 24-hour cancellation notice.
‣No Fees charged for mentoring. No exchange of financial gifts or loans.
‣Accessibility choices and hours with phone calls, texts, and emails.
‣ Verbal or written commitment for 4-6 months and then reevaluate.

10. Always allow enough time to conclude your meeting with prayer over your mentoring friend. Matthew 18:19-20

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The Christian Mentor and Mentee Relationship

A mentoring relationship should be a life-giving, face-to-face relationship holding profound influence in developing the mentee as a person of God. This life-giving relationship should equip the mentee with wisdom and discernment to navigate a lot of tough and everyday decisions.

Like all mentoring relationships, this should be a safe place for the mentee to be vulnerable and honest about the issues and circumstances in their life and not receive judgment or shame for those thoughts. A Christian mentoring relationship is a place of grace, mercy, and movement of the Holy Spirit in and through the conversation.

Mentoring others has blessed my life and I know it will bless yours!

Will you answer the call from God to become a Christian mentor to the next generation? The younger generations need godly mentors right now.

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Will you answer the call from God to become a Christian mentor to the next generation? The Millennials and GenZ need godly mentors who will pour into their lives and help guide them through these difficult days. Now is the time to reach out to these generations and make a difference for the Kingdom.

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Jayme a Spiritual Direction Coach. Mentor, Author, and Podcast Host is passionate about moving Christian Women forward to God's direction for their life through Scripture and prayer. Join the Spiritual Direction Coaching Today Facebook private page or connect with her on Instagram

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  • Viv Smith says:

    I am involved in the mentoring ministry at my church plus individual ministry to a younger sister. I wanted to let you know that this article was very helpful. God bless you!

    • Jayme Hull says:

      Hi Viv,
      Thanks so much for your comments. I’m so glad this article was helpful. If you are searching for more input you may want to download the free first chapter of my book Face To Face: Discover How Mentoring Can Change Your Life for more encouragement. I have many other Freebies and items in my store as well. Keep pouring into the next generation. Blessings!

  • Mrs Naidoo says:

    Hi Jayme
    Im Premie, i have be requested to mentor a woman . Please send me a prayer for our first meeting. Ive not done this before.

    • Jayme Hull says:

      Hi Premie,
      I’m so excited for you! I’d be honored to pray for you.
      O Holy Spirit,
      We need you! Come near and reveal yourself to Premie in a mighty way. Please speak loud and clear through Your Scriptures and give her wisdom as she mentors this woman. Lord, speak, Premie is listening.

      Fill Premie with the courage to speak the truth in love, give grace when it is needed, encourage with wisdom and listen with her heart. Protect her from any distractions so she can pour love into this mentee for your Glory.

      Thank you for always listening when we pray and supplying our every need just at the perfect time. Amen.

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