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Unrushing Your Soul

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by Emily P Meyer | September 26, 2018


Recently, my husband and I had our very first overnight getaway together sans our two-year-old little boy. We didn’t go far, just downtown to a beautiful historic hotel that was recently renovated. It was just the right dose of R &R for us to feel recharged. During our time of relaxation, the Holy Spirit pressed into my heart with the prayer I had been searching for the right words to pray: “Lord, unrush me…”

 

I had heard that a while back from Lysa Terkeurst and must have tucked it away for a rainy day. On this drizzly day in Virginia, that prayer surfaced as I saw God answering the prayer that the Holy Spirit heard in the utterances of my soul. In less than 24 hours, I took 3 baths in a wonderful soaking tub, read over 100 pages to finish a book that fueled my soul, played board games with my husband, savored uninterrupted conversations with him over nice meals that I didn’t have to make, I dreamed, I counted more of my blessings, and I prayed with more clarity.

 

This might sound like a luxurious day and to be honest for a stay at home mom, it was. But more importantly, it was a reminder of how rushed I am in life and how much my soul craves good opportunities to hit the breaks.

 

Maybe you feel rushed, too. Maybe you long for your mind and calendar to just slow down so you can be fully present with what is before you right now. It’s no easy feat to do that. Not by a longshot. But, with God, all things truly are possible.

Prayer

The unrushing of life starts with prayer and God’s Word. Ask God to help you be unrushed. It may not be a permanent unrushing, because He most certainly has seasons of hustle we are called to. But this kind of unrushing is one that brings your feet back to the ground and ties your soul more strongly to Heaven. Getting quiet enough to hear God and to be heard before Him is at the root of unrushing your weary soul.

 

Intentionality

Next, the unrushing of life happens with intentionality. The saying goes, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten.” So, look at your calendar and take a good look at your soul. What do you need to do to stop being in such a hurry that you miss living in the present, fully aware? Do you need to get away for a day? Or maybe even an hour? Do you need to leave the dishes in the sink? Or do you need to do the dishes in the sink? Do you need to go outside and feel the temperature of the day on your face? Do you need to snuggle under the sheets, catch up on rest, and not feel guilty about it? Listen to your soul and get intentional with your calendar.

 

Community

Finally, the unrushing of life comes from community. Sometimes we need to stop talking and start listening. Sometimes we need the reverse of that. Whether it’s a cup of coffee with a friend to share a heart to heart, a family member or friend agreeing to tend to your little treasures, a date, a potluck, a Bible study, or a chat with your neighbor… there are plenty of ways to look for the unrushing of your soul with the support of those who God has placed in your pocket of community. Seize those opportunities to slow down and share your heart or to listen while someone else pours their heart into your ear.

You don’t have to sprint through life like someone is creeping up on your lead, friend. You have permission to be unrushed. You just have to ask for it, accept it, and find support in it. When our souls are unrushed, we are more attuned to the holy hushes from the Spirit, giving us the rest and rejuvenation we need to walk with God better.

For more wonderful articles visit Emily’s website  http://www.emilypmeyer.com

5 Things To Look For When Searching For Community

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By Emily P. Meyer | June 13, 2017


 

Community. It’s not just the neighborhood you live in or a word that precedes other words like “center,” “outreach,” or “college.” Community is something intangible that you find as you imesh yourself into a tribe of other people you share commonalities with while you face life’s challenges and triumphs together.

 

I’m in a shape-shifting season of community right now. The group that my husband and I have “done life with” the past four and a half years is drastically about to change because several members of the group are being called to new seasons. We’ve all been in tears about it because none of us truly wants the close bond of Christ-centered family that we’ve shared through deep valleys, rocky roads, and dazzling triumphs to end as we know it.

 

The oldest in the group tries to encourage us from experience to remind us that people come into your life for a season and those bonds will never be broken even those distance and time separates us. Still, many of us want to fight for things to stay the same. But they won’t. Deep down, we all know it.

 

Here’s the thing- I don’t want to share all my junk with yet another group. That just exhausts me to think about explaining all the things I’ve lived through with these people.

 

But do you know what? It exhausted me to think about that before I came to this group of people, too.

 

I guess at the age of 33, I’ve been through about 5 or 6 batches of true blue tribes. The people I’ve “done life with” have come at just the right time for just the right reasons. Every time I’ve come to a season of in between, it’s felt awfully lonely and like I was on a launchpad to an unknown destination. But when I started becoming ingrained in community once again as I forged ahead into what was unknown to me, but always known to the Lord, I finally started to see a little more of who God wanted to use to help challenge and shape me as His daughter for that new season.

 

The older I get, the more I realize that from each tribe, I seem to have collected individual tribespeople that become part of my super tribe. They may not be the people I do life with locally, but they’re the people that I don’t have to re-explain my story to. They’ve known me long enough to help me come to a better knowing of myself. These are the ones I send the desperate pleas for prayer to. These are the ones I can bounce ideas off of and the ones who will reach out with real-talk to set me straight and help me stay grounded in what truly matters.

 

Maybe you’re tribe-less locally like I’m about to be, too. I can’t really tell you where exactly you’ll find your tribe. But what I can tell you is what to look for. Here are the top five things I’ll be looking for in my next tribe that I would encourage you to look for, too:

 

TOP 5 THINGS TO LOOK FOR WHEN SEARCHING FOR COMMUNITY:

  1. People who let you process out loud along the process of life.
  2. People who don’t just say, “That’s life,” when the going get’s tough. The people you want around you when life is hard are those who will weep with you and then DO something not to carry your whole load, but to help lift it. These will be the same people who truly rejoice with you when you experience victory in your life as well.
  3. People who are available… for text messages, meals, to help you move, to come to your husband’s graduation party, to watch your kid when you move again, to go to the movies with. Don’t misunderstand…you don’t need people who are there to do it all for you, but to do a lot of it with
  4. People who will love you unconditionally while you and Jesus process all the junk in your life.
  5. People who will always keep you grounded in the truth of God’s Word.

 

We had one of our last gatherings this past weekend: an impromptu cookout at our Life Group Leaders’ home. That night, as we drove away, I thought about what that group and our leaders’ home have meant to us these past few years. A phrase came to mind about all that we’ve shared together at their home, our church, and everywhere in between: a Christ-centered community is where home is church and church is home.

 

This sort of community is a sacred fellowship that breeds on grounds of backyards, beat up cars and minivans, churches, restaurants, concert floors, hospitals, playgrounds, funeral homes, nurseries, and so much territory between.

 

You were made for community, my friend. God made us in community and for community because His desire for us to know the beauty of relationship with Him and His people is at His core. Some of the first words the world ever heard from the God whose image we were made in clue us in on that: “Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image…” (Genesis 1:26).

 

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If you haven’t found your band of brothers and sisters yet, start looking today.

For more wonderful articles visit Emily’s website  http://www.emilypmeyer.com

4 Bold Steps to Help You Connect Right Now With A Mentor

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By Jayme Hull | March 21, 2017


 

If mentoring is about a relationship, then can you methodically find a mentor?  In a word, yes, but it isn’t going to be a method like you might often think of a method.  It is more of a process.  Let’s walk through the process together, step-by-step.

“Mentoring is not a formula or a checklist; it’s a relationship.”

Step One:  Be Aboveboard.

The truth is you desire more personal communication and real relationships. Begin to intentionally look at the women around you at work, church, the gym, or where you volunteer. No one will ever be perfect. What you will notice is how they handle the difficult situations of life and make the choice to move forward in their own life.

Believe me, neither good friends nor a good mentor will just “happen.” So don’t merely sit on your couch drinking a smoothie and praying. Pray, certainly. But then get up and move.  While you are out and about doing life watch for those around you who do life in a way you can admire.

Step Two:   Be Authentic.

Start a conversation with this person face to face. Share encouraging words with them and how you admire the way they choose to live life no matter what they are facing. Have a brief conversation about your desires to work on things in your life and grow in that area of your life.
Remember, Mentoring is so much more than just an appointment on your calendar—it’s a way of life.  Therefore, you will want to look for a mentor who you feel you can spend a part of your life with sharing and growing.  You will need to be willing to open up to this person and share who you are, your strengths and your weaknesses authentically.

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You will do this by spending time together.  This will take an effort on your part which you must be ready to blend into the other areas of your life.

Step Three:  Be Available.

Invite this person to meet for coffee. Ask them to share their life stories and consider becoming your mentor.
It is important to meet face-to-face after all God created us for face-to-face relationships long before social media began to take over our lives.  Just because you can build a relationship behind a computer or phone screen doesn’t mean you should.  True authentic relationships are best done face-to-face.

“Alone we can do so little, but together we can do so much.” Helen Keller

Step Four:  Be Approachable.

If you are inviting someone to share their life stories and pour into your life, you will need to be teachable. The only way to get unstuck and grow is to listen to wise godly counsel and pray about your mentoring conversation.

You will want to be willing and open to making changes in your life.  Allowing your mentor to help you take the first steps to better relationships, better choices and greater days.

Start today to seek people who can walk with you in living out your questions day by day. God didn’t create you and me to do life alone. Seek a mentor today and discover how this relationship will change your life forever.

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You Don’t Have To Do Life Alone

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God never intended for us to do life alone in isolation and loneliness. Have you wondered if God will ever send you a mentor who listens, encourages and uplifts you on your life journey?

Who is inspiring you?

I know from personal experience how a mentor can change your life. When I was 18 years old I was blessed by God to have my eyes opened to my emptiness and I received Jesus as my personal Savior. The very next day He gave me a godly mentor to help me learn how to do life as an authentic Christian.

I quickly learned having a godly mentor, who is willing to share their life stories with you over a cup of coffee, makes a huge positive impact on your life. I was no longer alone, we were doing life together. No matter what the circumstances – good or bad – my perspective on life changed for the good. I learned to look at things from God’s point of view. Seeking God’s point of view on things was life changing!

So. . . whether single, married, divorced, or widowed, God has a plan and a purpose for you in each season of your life. Instead of looking at your singleness as an obstacle to completing God’s plan for your life, or marriage as a reason to give up on God’s purposes for your life, you can seek God’s Light on your current stage of  life.

Did you know there are mentoring relationships portrayed in the Bible for us to follow? Over the years, I have discovered how to apply what I read in the Bible to my everyday life.

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In the Old Testament book of Ruth the relationship between Naomi and Ruth is a beautiful example of mentoring. Naomi and her husband Elimelek took their two sons and moved from Jerusalem, during a famine, to a foreign city. While they were there each son choose a wife to marry. Within 10 years Naomi’s husband and two sons died suddenly one right after the other.

Naomi wass hurting and lonely. She realized she needed community and decided to return home. On the way home to Jerusalem, Naomi informs her daughter in laws,Ruth and Orpah, that she has nothing to offer them and encourages them to return to their hometown to restart their lives.

Ruth is the only one who chooses to stay with Naomi. She has been observing her Mother in law and she knows she wants the relationship with God like hers.  Ruth 1:16-17 “But Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me.”

We all come to crossroads at different times in our lives. Like Ruth, God leads us in new directions, but he always let’s us choose whether to follow him or not.

We can see Naomi in her older years needing Ruth’s help and companionship during the difficult and uncomfortable days.
The relationship between Naomi and Ruth is a perfect example of mentoring. Both of these women at some point had to learn to give up things in their old lives to receive God’s best and God’s peace for the new life ahead of them.
Sometimes following God seems too hard, but with a strong Christian mentor the challenges of life are faceable. He asks us to give up our old lives so that we can be conformed to the image of Jesus Christ.

Are you secretly tired of doing life on your own? Take time today to pray and ask God to speak to your heart and divinely send you the mentor He has for you.

We’d love to hear your mentoring story and how the mentoring relationship changed your life.

You may want to read this post for encouragement while seeking a mentor: http://bit.ly/2a2iglC

If you are seeking a mentor and need God to show up in a real way, here is a short prayer to get you started. Let’s pray!

 

Dear God,

 I need your help! How can I grow in my connection with you and with others? I know you say in the Bible that you have a plan for my life. Somehow I’ve stopped believing. Help me with my unbelief. Help me trust you again.

Please give me the courage to step out and seek a mentor for help. I need you Lord! I don’t know how you will do it but I’m stepping out in faith. Send me a godly mentor to help me find my way back to you. I pray all of this in the strong name of Jesus who answers prayers and hears my cry.  Amen!

Two Ways To Begin A Mentoring Relationship

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by Jayme Hull| March 16, 2016


 

Let’s be honest. If this is the highest tech connected society with iphone, ipads and the Internet why do we still feel so disconnected, isolated and alone?

God never intended for us to do life alone.

Connecting with a mentor to walk alongside me changed my life forever and it can change your life too!

Finding a mentoring relationship is not just about us, but it is about God working in us for what He wants to do through us. How do you find a mentor? How can you develop a relationship and begin to watch God’s plan for you unfold?

“By connecting with a mentor, you can do the hard work now to discover who you are and what you want. You can explore your beliefs and what defines you. You can figure out where you came from and where you’re going.” Face To Face: Discover How Mentoring Can Change Your Life.

 

Two simple ways to begin a Mentoring Relationship:

  1. Step out. When I was seeking a mentor, I decided to step out and ask for help.

         Ask someone to introduce you to someone that you can learn from and grow together.             Someone further along the path in their faith and life experiences.

  1. Reach out. Meeting other Christians around you can sometimes be awkward and difficult but it is well worth our time.

Reach out to someone you already know and admire. Share your desire to learn from them and ask them to meet with you for coffee to discuss mentoring.

Faith involves risk taking. You and I must intentionally step out of our comfort zone and seek others in an authentic mentoring relationship.

First of all, be diligent to pray and ask for God’s guidance as you seek a mentor.

Ezra 10:4 “Get up…Be strong…Take action.”

God will lead you to the perfect relationship that will help you to grow and help you to discover your God-given calling. Don’t get discouraged. If you don’t find a mentor right away, trust that God has the situation under control and will lead you to the right person in his timing.

“Instead of waiting for someone to take you under their wing, go out and find a good wing to climb under.” Dave Thomas