Have you been thinking about becoming a mentor?

I received a question on Facebook from a friend recently asking for advice and encouragement, as she becomes a mentor in a new mentoring relationship.

I love this request.

Let me give you the Top 10 Best Helpful Tips for the Christian Mentor getting started based on Scripture.

1. Keep your own relationship with God fresh and vital.

Live an authentic Christian lifestyle. (Hebrews 5:14)

2. Spend time in prayer.

Ask God to use you in this mentoring relationship and give you the words He wants you to share. Mentoring will not be successful without a strong commitment to prayer. (Ephesians 6:18)

3. Ask good opened- ended questions.

Here are a few examples to help you get the conversations started. (Matthew 7:7-8)

‣ I’d like to hear your God story and how you got to where you are today.
‣ What are your expectations for our mentoring relationship right now and in the future?
‣ If you could do some things over again, what would you choose to do differently?
‣ What one important topic would you like to discuss this week?
‣ What are the biggest challenges you are experiencing this week?
‣ How has your walk with God been since the last time we met?
‣ I’ve been praying for you and your special request. How have you been managing this situation since we started praying?
‣ How are you and your job (or responsibilities at home) doing?
‣ How are you and God doing?
‣ What specific things are you thankful to the Lord for this week?

Here are helpful more questions asked by Jesus Christ:
Mt. 15:30, 16:15; Mk. 10:51; Lk. 8:25; Jn. 21:15

4. Be a good listener who’s focused on God and the person you are mentoring.

Your focus should be on God’s point of view and not your own agenda. As a Mentor you are not to try and fix anyone. The Holy Spirit must be in control. (Remember to maintain good eye contact. Do not take notes during your meeting. Keeping a prayer journal of your thoughts at home is acceptable.) (James 1:19)

5. Share your God stories and the power of God working in your life.

Be transparent and real and open to discussing any subject matter. Seek and share wisdom based on God’s Word (2 Tim 3:16-17)

6. Be an encourager who supports, nurtures and celebrates the young persons uniqueness and potential in Christ. (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

7. After the first get together I suggest making a 4 week commitment to dig into a short book of the Bible (I start with Philippians) to discuss and apply to your life.

The process of learning to read, discuss and apply scripture to life will be game changer for both of you. (Isaiah 55:11)

8. Plan to meet for one hour.

Arrive on time. End on time. Set up the next appointment time and place before you leave. I suggest meeting every week for the first 4-6 weeks. After completing the first 6 weeks you can discuss the next plan for weekly or bi-weekly scheduled meetings. (1 Corinthians 14:40)

9. Set boundaries on the first meeting for the mentoring relationship. (Psalm 16:6)

‣ All discussions will be Confidentiality between the two of you. However, you will absolutely refuse to keep any subject matter confidential that is potential danger or covers up any evil.
‣ All meetings will be 60 minutes and there should be a 24 hour cancellation notice.
‣No Fees charged for mentoring. No exchange of financial gifts or loans.
‣Accessibility choices and hours with phone calls, texts, and emails.
‣ Both parties should come prepared and prayed up.
‣ It is critical that the person who is being mentored has a healthy balance seeking God’s counsel, teachings and praise above and before the mentor’s.
‣ Verbal or written commitment for 4-6 months and then reevaluate.

10. Always allow enough time to conclude your meeting with prayer over your mentoring friend. (Matthew 18:19-20)

Mentoring others has blessed my life and I know it will bless yours!

Will you answer the call from God to be a mentor to the next generation?


Author Jayme Hull

Jayme Hull is a dynamic speaker and passionate mentor who motivates audiences to invest in others through mentoring. Shaped by countless mentors over the past, Jayme now has the privilege of mentoring millenial women for the past thirty-five years. As a Church Mentoring Consultant she trains Church leaders how to successfully produce mentor programs.

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  • Viv Smith says:

    I am involved in the mentoring ministry at my church plus individual ministry to a younger sister. I wanted to let you know that this article was very helpful. God bless you!

    • Jayme Hull says:

      Hi Viv,
      Thanks so much for your comments. I’m so glad this article was helpful. If you are searching for more input you may want to download the free first chapter of my book Face To Face: Discover How Mentoring Can Change Your Life for more encouragement. I have many other Freebies and items in my store as well. Keep pouring into the next generation. Blessings!

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