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Change Comes In All Of Our Lives - Jayme Lee Hull

Game Changers

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By Kolleen Lucariello | October 30, 2018


Our family has always enjoyed playing games. Our children grew up with family game nights as we gathered around the table with a board game or card game. Video games weren’t off limits, either. Family time still includes game time.

 

However, there is one game I’ve never liked to play with them, or anyone for that matter—people games. It can be easy to partake of this game, and also difficult to recognize when it begins; we often don’t even realize how long we’ve played it. You can be sure of this: the effects of the game are easily felt. We can also be sure some people have become experts at the game.

 

My mother-in-law enjoyed playing the card game Hearts with her family. The people game involves people hearts. I imagine we all feel we’ve had heart messed with at one time or another. Giving our heart away to someone who is just playing the people game can land a crushing blow to the strongest of humans. Do you make promises you never intend to keep? Say one thing, yet do another? Do you lead people to believe your intentions are honest when in reality they are less than honorable? One strategy of the people game includes shuffling through people until we find someone we can manipulate, control and use to our advantage.

 

I can’t speak for you, but I don’t want to be a pawn in the people game, and I find myself weary of spectating as others are hurt by strategies put into practice by those who seem to delight in the game. Want out of the game? It’s going to take a new response approach to be removed—something that will be an effective game changer.

 

Merriam-Webster defines a game changer as “a newly introduced element or factor that changes an existing situation or activity in a significant way.” Or in the words of my husband, something happens to change the momentum of the game. We witness game changers when an incredible play causes one team to come from behind and take the lead.

 

Such as the moment God sent Jesus to defeat sin on the cross; this was His incredible play. In the midst of The Law and legalism, Jesus became the newly introduced element or factor that changed existing situations and activity in a significant way. Israel would never be the same. He became their salvation; He became ours, too. Jesus was a Game Changer.

 

I often receive a gentle nudge from the Holy Spirit, which reminds me He enables me to change the way I play the game. When pressed I don’t need to respond like I used to.

He makes it possible to:

Offer grace instead of revenge (Leviticus 19:18),

Forgive rather than hold that grudge (Matthew 6:15),

Pick up the towel you decided to throw in (Philippians 3:13-15),

Seek the wisdom of a counselor (Proverbs 15:22),

Seek to understand instead of demanding to be understood (James 1:19),

Let go of our right to be right (Colossians 3:12),

Find the courage to try again (Psalm 31:24),

Stop the insult for insult, hurt for hurt, and dig for dig (1 Peter 3:9).

Drop the matter before the quarrel breaks out (Proverbs 17:14).

 

We become game changers when we unselfishly love and seek the best for one another, just as He commanded us (1 John 3:23‬). The moment we decide we don’t need to fall apart in our circumstances—and determine to find the best in everyone—we change the game‬‬‬‬‬ (1 Corinthians 13:7‬ AMP‬). ‬‬‬‬‬When we accept vengeance is the Lord’s and leave it in His capable hands to decide, we are game changers (Romans 12:19). ‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

 

God wants to change our identity—one letter at a time—and the process begins when we become mindful of how we play people game.

 

#BeYou

G-Game Changer

Visit Kolleen’s website for more inspiration and encouragement:  http://www.speakkolleen.com/

Kolleen is the author of the devotional book, The ABC’s of Who God Says I Am. available on Amazon.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Changing Lanes

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By Kolleen Lucariello | April 17, 2018


My husband and I were less than an hour away from home when I heard him mumble something about the car in the left lane. We’d spent several days visiting family and friends and were more than ready to get out of the car; it was not a surprise to me he was less than patient with the lady on the left. When I teased him a bit about his “road rage” he replied, “She’s been in the left lane for miles. She speeds up and then slows down and she won’t move over for anyone. People get behind her and then are forced to move into the right lane to pass her. I’ve seen some frustrated drivers–all because she won’t get out of the way.”

 

Ever been stuck behind someone who won’t get out of the way? I sure have, and Pat was right, it can cause a bit of frustration in those who are trying to pass. Okay—I admit that I too, am guilty of failing to move over into the right lane. Sometimes I catch myself daydreaming, or I become determined to stay right where I am, until I have accomplished what I set out to do–pass all the slow people! Haven’t you done it too? We’ve probably all failed to move and get out of the way at least once, right?

Encountering someone who won’t move can easily produce frustration in those behind them. It doesn’t just happen on the highway either; it could be at home or work, in relationships and amazingly, it can even happen within the church. Sometimes we just have a hard time moving over for anyone–even for God.

 

Pharaoh suffered through ten plagues before he moved out of God’s way. Jonah spent three days in the belly of a whale before he moved out of God’s way. Saul had to spend three days without sight before he moved. We can get so comfortable in the left lane we fail to recognize when God is right behind us nudging us to move over.

 

He’s got a plan to accomplish and if we become convinced we belong in that lane and no one else is allowed to pass–well, we limit God. And we frustrate the one He’s placed in position behind us.

 

Years ago I felt the Lord leading me to organize a ladies brunch at the church we attended. I was hesitant to even suggest it was on my heart to do this as I had no experience whatsoever, but I just couldn’t shake the thought this was the Lord’s plan for me. So, stepping out of my comfort zone, I asked and permission was granted. Within a few days a letter arrived in my mailbox from a woman who’d been driving in the left lane for years and was unwilling to move over. The brunch was held but she, as well as those traveling with her, refused to attend. It’s not easy to switch lanes when we take ownership of ministries and forget they have belonged to God all along.

 

In Genesis 26, when a conflict over water rights arose, Isaac abandoned one well, moved on and dug another one. When the disputes ceased he said, “At last the Lord has created enough space for us to prosper in this land” (Genesis 26:22, NLT). When we allow God to change our identity–one letter at a time–we become gracious towards others whom God has placed behind us. Why? Because there’s plenty of room for everyone to move in and out of each lane.

 

#BeYou

G-Gracious

Visit Kolleen’s website for more inspiration and encouragement:  http://www.speakkolleen.com/

Kolleen is the author of the devotional book, The ABC’s of Who God Says I Am. available on Amazon.com

3 Ways To Watch The Colorful Season Change With Grace

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Have you ever noticed when the season’s change you do too? I enjoy the summer, spring and winter, but I think autumn may be my favorite. How about you?
During the autumn season the scenery begins to change right before your eyes. The vibrant colors of the autumn leaves with their fire reds and brilliant oranges seem picture perfect. The cool breeze as you stroll along the path makes you glad you grabbed your favorite old sweater from the closet for the evening

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How To Be Confident, Face Change and Move Forward On The Mentoring Path

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By Jayme Hull | March 22, 2017


 

Every single experience—whether it is a change we celebrate or a change we cry over—is an opportunity to grow. And yes, that includes every choice you make that you look back at and regret. No matter how on-top-of-the-world or down-in-the-ditch life gets, I have decided to move forward.

I’ve lived in 5 different states, changed zip codes 9 times plus packed and unpacked boxes too many times to count. Can you relate?

I lived in New York City during my college years. Since I was from a small little country town in Pennsylvania I loved to escape the cement sidewalks by taking walks through Central Park. An Italian artist, Tatinana Trouve, identified 212 unique pathways throughout Central Park. No matter which path you take it’s always best to take along a friend for your safety. I’ve always been searching for safe people to do life with throughout each season of my life and especially on all of my moving adventures from state to state.

“Gosh, change is harder than I thought! Sometimes, I couldn’t tell which way was up. I needed wisdom. How do I know what to do?

My life began to change when I was finally connected with a mentor and friend. She helped me work through my loneliness and find a new community each time I moved. It’s amazing how change exposes our true selves. It reminds us of how vulnerable we are—how much we need God and other people. It gives us courage and the confidence to reach out for support rather than trying to do life alone. Now, I spend my time confidently reaching out to others and trying to help them on their own life journey.

John Maxwell writes, “One of the greatest values of mentors is the ability to see ahead what others cannot see and to help them navigate a course to their destination.”

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If you truly want to grow, you need another person to allow you to speak out what’s in your heart without criticizing.

I encourage you to take a moment to quiet your heart.

Ask God to give you insight into the areas you need to grow in, then jot down whatever He brings to your mind.

Let’s purpose together that when we stand before God one day, we’ll be able to joyously say,

“I used everything You gave me.” No unused talent. No hidden fears. No regrets . . . because, in community with other Christians, we relentlessly pursued growth.

Maybe you’re a risk-taker by nature—you jump first and think later. Or maybe you like to play it safe and can be paralyzed by the idea of change. No matter what your natural bent, wisdom is needed in navigating transitions.

Change is a part of life—we can’t escape it. But, we don’t have to do life alone.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.”

 

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I love when Readers send me their mentoring stories and photos. Pictured above is Cherie who mentors and pours into Katie who is a High School Teacher. Katie is passing it on by encouraging and mentoring her High School students. Be encouraged. God desires to use your life experiences and stories to make a difference in the lives of others.

My heartbeat is to share the positive message of mentoring to help others live a life full of hope. Who knows? You may already have your mentoring relationship right in front of you! Let the story begin…

For more encouragement on mentoring relationships Visit: Is Your Mentor Right In Front Of You?

How To Face Your Challenge and See God

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When you face a challenge do you want to RUN AWAY or PRESS IN AND MOVE FORWARD? Maybe you avoid a challenge like the plague or just pretend it doesn’t exist.

If I ignore it, it’ll go away, right? How easy it is to ignore the elephant in the room.

Like it or not, challenges are a key part of life. Challenges develop your character.

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It’s new territory for many of us to realize that a challenge is actually a catalyst for change and learning! It’s a novel idea, perhaps, but these challenges have the potential to create a deeper and more authentic relationship with God and others than ever before, when we embrace them as an opportunity.

Here are a few ways to face your challenge and see God make it an opportunity:

GO AHEAD: DO THE NEXT THING

No matter how big the challenge, don’t allow it to paralyze you. Do the next thing. Move towards the solution of the situation you are facing.

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CHANGE YOUR FOCUS

Instead of staring at the challenge, change your focus. Begin looking in new, positive and creative directions for answers and solutions. Focus on the possibilities and God gives you opportunities.

Philippians 3:13-14 “. . .I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on . . .”

BE AN OVERCOMER

Overcome the feelings of fear or the obstacles holding you back. Ask for help.

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First: Ask God for help.                                                                                                                                  Second: Ask Him to guide you to the person(s) or place He has provided for you in this moment.                Third: Audibly say the words “I need help . . .”

I wanted to share a wonderful true story, The Magnolia Miracle by Edna Ellison. This story was such an inspiration to me I decided to pass it on. Learn how to face your challenge and see God make it an opportunity for His glory.

 

Edna had one goal in mind: Her daughter’s wedding was going to be perfect. Like most mothers-of-the-bride, she had planned for months, organizing every detail with drill-sergeant precision.

She wished her husband was still alive to enjoy this special moment in their daughter’s life, and she missed his broad shoulders as she carried the weight of the responsibility alone.

The wedding day neared and Edna met with the floral designer to discuss the final details for decorating the church. “Edna, why don’t we use fresh greenery and magnolia blossoms for the front of the sanctuary?” the florist suggested. “You can probably find a magnolia tree in your neighborhood, and it will save you some money. We’ll decorate the day before the wedding, and then we can turn the air-conditioning really low so the blossoms will stay fresh until after the ceremony.”

The next morning, Edna and her future son-in-law arrived at the church. The temperature that day was a blazing 107 degrees. Upon opening the church doors, a blast of hot air hit them instead of the refreshing coolness they had expected. They discovered that a storm during the night had knocked the power out and the air-conditioning had been off.

Edna entered the sanctuary and was horrified to see that the once glossy white magnolia blossoms were now wilted and black.

She panicked. Turning to her future son-in-law, she said, “What will we do? We can’t have people come to a wedding with black flowers and we only have a few hours until the ceremony!”

“Drive around and find whatever flowers you can and bring them back.”

Edna drove through the neighborhood surrounding the church and finally saw a magnolia tree in the distance. She pulled in the driveway, rushed from the car, and knocked frantically on the door.

When an elderly man answered, she blurted, “I need you.” She quickly shared the wedding-disaster story.

The eighty-six-year-old man grabbed a step stool; then he cut the blossoms and handed them to Edna. She thanked him profusely.

As she turned to leave, he said, “You don’t realize what just happened here.”

She looked at him quizzically. Tears welled in his eyes as he explained, “My wife died on Monday. Tuesday night, we received friends at the funeral home down the road.” A trail of tears trickled down his wrinkled cheeks. “We buried her on Wednesday, and on Friday, all my children went home.”

He struggled to get the next words out. Edna grasped his hand, waiting for him to finish.

“Now it’s just me, and the house is so empty. I fed my wife every bite the last few years, and she doesn’t need me anymore. My children are gone and they don’t need me, either. I feel so alone.Right before you came, I shook my fist at God and shouted, “God, does anybody need me? As the words left my mouth, you knocked on the door and the exact words you said were, “I need you.”

In a halting voice, he continued, “While I was cutting the magnolia blossoms for you, it dawned on me that maybe I can have a flower ministry and take some flowers to people at the nursing homes and hospitals to help brighten their days.”

Edna wiped the tears from her cheeks; overwhelmed as she realized that God had fine-tuned the details of her child’s wedding day so that one of his hurting children could hear the words “I need you.”

Where do you see yourself in this story?

Are you willing to welcome your challenge as a gift—a character lab, so to speak.

How can you embrace your challenge as an opportunity to grow and see God make it into something only He can do?

May you be brave enough to be vulnerable, strong enough to reach out, and may you meet God in new ways as you connect with Him in your challenge.

We’d love to hear from you. Share your God story!

How To Be Confident! Face Change and Move Forward On The Path To Mentoring

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by Jayme Hull | June 10, 2016


 

Every single experience—whether it is a change we celebrate or a change we cry over—is an opportunity to grow. And yes, that includes every choice you make that you look back at and regret. No matter how on-top-of-the-world or down-in-the-ditch life gets, I have decided to move forward.

I’ve lived in 5 different states, changed zip codes 9 times plus packed and unpacked boxes too many times to count. Can you relate?

I lived in New York City during my college years. Since I was from a small little country town in Pennsylvania I loved to escape the cement sidewalks by taking walks through Central Park. An Italian artist, Tatinana Trouve, identified 212 unique pathways throughout Central Park. No matter which path you take it’s always best to take along a friend for your safety. I’ve always been searching for safe people to do life with throughout each season of my life and especially on all of my moving adventures from state to state.

“Gosh, change is harder than I thought! Sometimes, I couldn’t tell which way was up. I needed wisdom. How do I know what to do?

 

Connected and Confident

When I was finally connected with a mentor my life began to change. She helped me work through my loneliness and find a new community each time I moved. It’s amazing how change exposes our true selves. It reminds us of how vulnerable we are—how much we need God and other people. It gives us courage and the confidence to reach out for support rather than trying to do life alone. Now, I spend my time confidently reaching out to others and trying to help them on their own life journey.

John Maxwell writes, “One of the greatest values of mentors is the ability to see ahead what others cannot see and to help them navigate a course to their destination.”

[easy-tweet tweet=”I’m convinced there is no better or safer place to be than talking out our greatest dreams and deepest fears with a trusted mentor.” user=”JaymeHull” hashtags=”#FTFMentoring”]

If you truly want to grow, you need another person to allow you to speak out what’s in your heart without criticizing.

I encourage you to take a moment to quiet your heart.

 

Ask God

Ask God to give you insight into the areas you need to grow in, then jot down whatever He brings to your mind.

Let’s purpose together that when we stand before God one day, we’ll be able to joyously say,

“I used everything You gave me.” No unused talent. No hidden fears. No regrets . . . because, in community with other Christians, we relentlessly pursued growth.

Maybe you’re a risk-taker by nature—you jump first and think later. Or maybe you like to play it safe and can be paralyzed by the idea of change. No matter what your natural bent, wisdom is needed in navigating transitions.

Change is a part of life—we can’t escape it. But, we don’t have to do life alone.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.”

 

cherie and friend2

I love when Readers send me their mentoring stories and photos. Pictured above is Cherie who mentors and pours into Katie who is a High School Teacher. Katie is passing it on by encouraging and mentoring her High School students. Be encouraged. God desires to use your life experiences and stories to make a difference in the lives of others.

My heartbeat is to share the positive message of mentoring to help others live a life full of hope. Who knows? You may already have your mentoring relationship right in front of you! Let the story begin…